Couple Sex Therapy
I have experience working with a wide range of sexual difficulties couples face that get in the way of pleasure and connection with each other. Sexual issues are extremely common and sometimes we need a safe space to talk about them with a non-judgmental and qualified therapist. Expect sessions to be goal-driven and transformative, though never cursory or one-size-fits all. Often, other difficulties in the couple’s relationship have a direct impact on desire and intimacy, so this will be a portion of the therapy, if relevant.
issues commonly addressed in couple sex therapy
Refining and cultivating the art of eroticism in a long-term relationship
Navigating desire discrepancy or low desire in one or both partners
Sexlessness and sexual avoidance in one or both partners
Working through sexual inhibitions
Learning to set healthy sexual boundaries and increase ability to say “no” as well as increase ability to say “yes”
Learning to saying “yes” not out of obligation, but out of genuine desire
Questions about sexual compatibility
Helping co-habitating partners resist the inertia of the “roommate effect”; learning how to relate to you partner both as a friend, companion, co-parent AND lover
Couples with differing sexual templates or styles
Improving and fostering sexual communication
Problems with pornography or out-of-control sexual behavior (‘‘sex addiction”)
Learning to connect through vulnerability
Developing alternative relationship structures (open/poly/ENM)
Finding ways for couples to experience pleasure and connection despite sexual dysfunction in one or both partners; resolving sexual dysfunction that is perpetuated by unhelpful communication patterns
erectile dysfunction, rapid/delayed ejaculation, sexual pain disorders (vulvodynia, vaginismus, vestibulodynia), anorgasmia
Navigating fertility concerns and/or infertility
BDSM & Kink
Love/lust split
Maintaining a vital sexual relationship in the aftermath of having children and through the duration of raising children